Here at SpicyMatch, we've been noticing something interesting brewing in the swingers community lately – more chatter about bisexual men. It's got us thinking: why not open up the floor and have a chat about it? Let's share some thoughts from our perspective.
Now, while society's making strides in accepting alternative lifestyles, let's be real – the swinger scene isn't exactly a utopia of open-mindedness. Swingers are just regular folks with their own biases, whether it's about religion, politics, or sex. And one topic that's really got us scratching our heads is how differently bisexual men and women are treated in the scene. While bisexual women are embraced and even encouraged, bisexual men frequently face stigma and discrimination, with reports of rough attitudes and exclusion at lifestyle events. It's a bit of a mess, really. While promoters are all about using the allure of bi women to lure folks to their events, bi guys often get the short end of the stick or feel like they gotta keep their orientation on the down-low to avoid drama.
All this makes for some pretty murky waters in the swinger scene. But hey, talking about it is a start, right? Let's start challenging prejudices and foster a more inclusive environment for all.
In a world where LGBT rights are gaining traction, and us swingers are already pushing societal norms, why are we leaving bisexual men out in the cold? If we welcome bisexual women with open arms, shouldn't we extend the same courtesy to bisexual men?
So, here are our tips for making the swingers scene more inclusive and welcoming for bisexual men:
Be open about your preferences.
The more bisexual men who are open about their preferences, the more accepting the community will become. Many guys we've met in the lifestyle are totally cool, but we'd never know unless we had a chat about it. Lots of online profiles don't explicitly mention men's bisexual preferences due to lingering stigma.
Respect personal boundaries.
If someone says they're not bi but down for full-swap play, respect that! Touching or pressuring others without permission is a big no-no, regardless of sexual orientation. Remember, "no" means no, and it's always best to ask before doing anything.
Events should be more bi-inclusive.
Promoters should do better at being inclusive in their event imagery and wording. If they're gonna show two women getting cozy, why not show two guys heating things up elsewhere? Continuing to perpetuate double standards only keeps the stigma alive. Here at SpicyMatch we have worked on creating an event which is inclusive for bisexual guys: Bi to Cap, an event tailored towards everyone but includes bisexual couples, bisexual and/or bi-curious Males & Females.
So, what are your thoughts on this topic? Do bisexual men throw a wrench in the lifestyle for you? Would you be down for a more open culture in the swinger community regarding bisexual men?